“that’s not fair,” isn’t that what we always say when we feel cheated? “Life isn’t fair,” that’s when we find ourselves in situations we have no control over or when we make someone else feel cheated. This can especially be true for my diabetic readers, right? Well today I want to talk to you about this outlook. This is one that, when seriously considered, can be found to be self-destructive to one’s life, and similarly toxic to the soul. Now I am not here to say that everything that happens to you is going to be okay, or even that you should take everything that comes your way in stride and blindly believe it will all work out, but I do want you to know that this saying, this phrase that has morphed its way into a social colloquialism, is one that diverts blame and stops an individual from taking full responsibility. If this happens, one is no longer allowing himself the best chance to alter his situation from one of inconvenience to one that can work towards his favor. So let’s talk about this notion for a second and get a historical basis.
I am of the belief that every great figure in history has lived through an immense hardship that ultimately helped shape their way of thinking and ignited a driving force, accelerating them into their position of authority. Abraham Lincoln had to persevere through the death of a parent early on in life, later he experienced a great many failures before finally making his way as president of the United States. Albert Einstein was thought not to have spoken until the age of four. Later in life he was mocked and ridiculed for going against the status quo of physics when forming the basis for his theory of relativity. Winston Churchill, an heir of Marlborough, was set on a life course that forced him to make his own way while his brother reaped the riches of his ancestry. I believe this is paramount for the construct of a truly rewarding and fulfilling life. Of all the quotes you find spoken by the men I have listen, nowhere will you find a quote to the effect of ‘just give up when life isn’t fair.’ Each of these men found a way to push through their situation and in one way or another ascended to their place in society. Because of this I feel that you and I should similarly push through our hardships until we can use our experiences for us, and stop ourselves from living out life as the perpetual victim.
For my diabetics, I know it’s easy to feel down, easy to get mad and wonder what you have done to deserve a disease such as this. But I promise, cursing God, Allah, or Daenerys Targaryen from Game of Thrones will not make the situation better. Instead use that time to realize what a blessing it is that you just have diabetes. And yes, I do mean blessing! After being diagnosed I went through the not fair perspective, I hated everything and thought that nothing in the world could make this okay. I let my sugars spin out of control and didn’t caution to take care of myself…however a few short months later one of my best friends was diagnosed with leukemia. He remained in the hospital for over a year. That quickly woke me up and helped me realize I have a disease that allows for a doughnut to be a medical necessity at times, and the world’s smallest needle injections to keep me alive. Oh, and did I mention I can live a completely normal life? This should encourage us all to embrace the cards we’re dealt and use them to make us the best version of ourselves. Let us no longer pout about the things that are wrong and instead focus on what we can do to illuminate positive qualities. Even if you are not a diabetic I am sure there are many things in your life that can make you feel as through the world is out to get you. But no matter the case, no matter what you are going though, throw away the “it’s not fair” coping mechanism. Doing what you can will forge an indomitable soul. The world won’t be able to bother you anymore and people will start to notice that you are a person that can endure anything that is thrown your way.
As a final thought, I challenge you! You ready!? Take the next 7 days to view all your situations from a perspective that is based in positivity and with an urge to manage your hardships to work for you, not against you. At the end of each day write down what the old you may have considered to be “not fair” and what it was that the new you did to shift your perspective and alleviate the anxiety stemming from that situation. At the end of the 7 days do a personal check. How do you feel? Have you been more productive? Do you find yourself in an overall better mood? Most importantly do you thinking living each day with this perspective will put you in a more beneficial position than doing what you have done in the past? Once you have done this leave a comment or get in contact with me and let me know what your experience was! As always have a great week. Until next time!
Diabetic-Drive 